Month of April '09

I got engaged last month! That is the biggest step I have ever taken and most of it was my decision.

His name is Ashutosh. A game programmer working in Atlanta. His family is based out of Chennai. So far so good... :-).

We spoke to each other for more than a month. It all started with my Brother-in-law and his sister-in-law's match-making brains. They both are first cousins. It started with an email, followed by some chat and phone conversations. A's parents and my parents met and they liked each other (I find this statement funny. So, I am putting it here as well). And then we were supposed to meet. I convinced him to come to Boulder saying Boulder is very beautiful. On Thursday, the weather department forecast'd heavy snow blizzard in Boulder and areas around. Having experienced a snow blizzard just a week ago, I called A and told him about it and got the meeting postponed to next weekend. I had so much of guilt because it was me who convinced him for Boulder and it was me who was postponing the meeting. Mr. A was going to be super busy next some weekends and did not have enough time to travel, so I decided to fly down to Atlanta and meet him. Good that I did not have to play a host. :D.

Spent a day with him, had good time. And at the end of the day said yes. The decision was not a click decision. It happened gradually as the day passed. None of my family members have seen him or met him in person and I have not met any of his. I was very tensed to take such a big decision on my own. But, recently I had realized that you need to take risks and make things work and you are responsible for your own happiness. And I took the decision.

I was in a weird state for a week. I did not know what to do, how to react. Being in States, away from family it was taking time to sink in. I only felt some difference when I spoke to his family and my family. And they all were super happy and excited. I could feel that when I spoke to them. And they could not feel the same when they spoke to me. I had to assure them that it will take sometime.

And things changed when we met again last weekend. Had a really good time and now I feel that yes, I am engaged and there is this new person in my life whom I really want to talk to, know more about him and spend time with him. I love talking to his family. Its going nice so far and I am looking forward for more from life.

I am sorry to post this so late. My idea was to post this news first on my blog. But due to a cluttered brain at that time, nothing right would come out of it. Better late than never! :)

I will be writing a blog about my experience on how it goes for a girl in an arrange marriage. I had decided some time back that I will write about it after I get engaged. How all this changes a girl's mindset about herself and the world. Look for it sometime soon!